You may have the authority to order other people around. That doesn’t mean they will like it or that they will give their best...
When we make our well-being dependent on someone else’s functioning we set up a conflict of wills. “Soaring” from Friedman’s Fables can help us understand...
This episode looks at the pseudo-self vs. the basic self, as well as the three-legged stool of self-differentiation. Show Notes: Differentiation of Self: To Be...
They say the average overnight success takes about ten years. Sometimes it takes nearly three times that. In 1993, Katalin Kariko, a University of...
This look at self-differentiation comes from the Bowen school of family systems theory. I give my take on how it can help you grow as...
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” Brené Brown If you haven’t seen Brené Brown’s TEDxHouston talk on the power of vulnerability,...
Trust is a key factor in effective leadership. This episode shows how leadership through self-differentiation makes this possible. Show Notes: 7 common qualities of credible...
Most disagreements don’t go sideways because of the content. They go sideways because of the intensity, that is emotional process. The moment we feel...
Murray Bowen and Michael Kerr wrote that when anxiety rises, relationship systems automatically find ways to “bind” the anxiety. This episode covers what that looks...