Podcast Episode 365: Three Ways to Take Responsibility for Self (Rebroadcast)
Self-differentiated leaders take responsibility for themselves (and no one else). This will increase self-discipline in a way that helps you in all aspects of life. Here are three strategies to help you do this. Show Notes: Why this type of self-discipline will make you a better leader by Jody Michael Become a Patron for as little […]
Self Compassion: The Foundation of a Non-Anxious Presence
I often say that self‑regulation is the key to self‑differentiation. When we can regulate our automatic responses in the moment, we’re far more capable of choosing how we want to show up—taking responsibility for ourselves while staying connected to others. But there’s another ingredient that makes this possible, and it’s one we don’t talk […]
Podcast Episode 364: Differentiation at the Edge: Why Your Growth Depends on the Hardest Moments
Edge cases don’t happen often, but they are predictable. This episode unpacks what that looks like and offers five steps to help you grow as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Why the Best Communicators Prepare for the Edge Cases – Matt Norman Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for […]
The Problem with Annual Goals: They’re Too Long (and Too Short)
“When you’re impatient with results, every day feels expensive. When you’re impatient with effort, every day feels like progress.” Shane Parrish As we begin a new year, you might be thinking about annual goals. This could be personally or professionally. It could take the form of the dreaded New Year’s resolution. Or it […]
Podcast Episode 363: 5 Tips to Start Your New Year Well (updated)
This episode covers a systematic way to improve your life on a regular basis. Show Notes: Get a free copy of One New Habit, One Big Goal: Change Your Life in 10 Weeks Episode 311: The Year End Review (with a Family Systems Take – Rebroadcast) Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe […]
The Hidden Cost of Inauthenticity: How Staying True to Yourself Prevents Burnout
We’ve all done it. We nod along in meetings, laugh at jokes that aren’t funny, or pretend to agree just to keep the peace. It feels harmless—just part of being a team player. But research suggests something deeper is happening beneath the surface. When we act in ways that don’t align with who we […]
Podcast Episode 362: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 4 of 4) – Self-Regulation and Integrity in the Moment of Choice (Rebroadcast)
Self-differentiation is acting in accordance with your goals and values, especially in anxious moments. This episode shows you how, as well as what to do when you don’t. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer Become […]
How to Handle Annoying Family Members During the Holidays
The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy and connection, but let’s be honest—family gatherings can also bring stress. We often find ourselves reacting to old patterns with siblings, parents, or extended relatives in ways we’d never tolerate at work. An article in Fast Company reminded me that while we use professional […]
Podcast Episode 361: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 3 of 4) – The Problem with Seriousness and Reactivity (Rebroadcast)
The emotional intensity that comes from being super-serious can turn a challenge into a problem. Likewise, when we react automatically to the anxiety of others, it can make a bad situation worse. This episode digs into why this is the case and what you can do about it. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How […]