Podcast Episode 65: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 10 Doing Your Own Work
Finding a therapist or coach, doing a genogram and family timeline, and listening to family stories can help you work toward greater self-differentiation. It’s a life’s work.
Podcast Episode 64: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 9 Paradox and Playfulness
Relating to anxious people is a challenge. Your best tools are recognizing emotional process, then using paradox and playfulness.
Podcast Episode 63: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 8 Self-Regulation
Self-regulation is the key to keeping your own anxiety in check, as well as to reducing the anxiety level in the system. A simple way to do this is to listen.
Connection in a Time of Social Distancing
Working from home is great! Except when it’s not. If you’re forced to do it, it may not be so good. Add to that the responsibility of home-schooling kids whose school is shut down and it makes the office seem much better. Even when given a choice, it’s not always the preferred option. Six years […]
Podcast Episode 62: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 7 Sabotage
Change in a system will bring resistance in the form of sabotage. Learning how to recognize it and how to deal with it can result in change that lasts.
Podcast Episode 61: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 6 The Leverage of the Dependent
It’s the conflict of wills in a system that creates anxiety. Self-differentiation reduces this. It also helps us to deal with those who are emotionally dependent and try to hold us hostage.
Don’t Panic (It’s Never Helpful)
Challenge and uncertainty are a part of life. The question is, how do you handle it? Current events are instructive. The recent coronavirus outbreak is cause for tremendous concern. It’s only a matter of time before your area is affected. The nature of the virus makes that a near certainty. It’s contagious before symptoms occur, […]
Podcast Episode 60: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 5 Process and Content
Understanding emotional process distinguishes when it’s helpful to engage in the content of the matter and when it’s best avoided. This is simple, but not easy.
Podcast Episode 59: If You Met My Family You’d Understand-Chapter 4 Triangles
When we are uncomfortable with another, we often avoid dealing directly with that relationship by triangling a third person or issue. Understanding how triangles work and how to deal with them is essential to healthy functioning.