Garbage Cans, Masks and Surrounding Togetherness Pressure
There’s one thing I know: when a holiday falls on a Monday, all garbage collection moves back by one day that week. Even though I knew this, one time after a holiday weekend, I went online and checked my account to confirm that our normal Wednesday collection was rescheduled for Thursday. It was. However, […]
Podcast Episode 72: Self-Differentiation and Maturity-A Look at the Work of Jenny Brown
Family systems practitioner Jenny Brown uses the term maturity to describe self-differentiation. I take two paragraphs from her book and distill out three hallmarks of self-differentiation. Show Notes: Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life’s relationships by Jenny Brown The Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 71: Save Your Energy for the Important Decisions
Not every decision is created equal. Knowing how to manage your decision-making energy will make you more confident, less anxious, and will leave you more energy for the big decisions. Show Notes: Successful people like Barack Obama and Mark Zuckerberg wear the same thing every day — and it’s not a coincidence from Business Insider […]
Trust Takes Time
I have a regular route for my morning run. It goes by a large tree that is home to an osprey pair. Osprey generally mate for life and return to the same nest each year. The female incubates the eggs while the male defends the nest. For the last five years, as I’ve approached on […]
Podcast Episode 70: Piercing the Fog of War-Four Steps for Effective Leadership in Uncertain Times
The uncertainty created by the COVID-19 pandemic is like “the fog of war.” Non-anxious leaders embrace this uncertainty in a way that helps those they lead do their best work. Show notes: A Crisis Leadership Lesson, an interview with General Stanley McChrystal, The Masters of Scale Rapid Response Podcast. This link has all episodes on […]
The Weight (and Wait) of Unknowing
Like many, I spend a lot of time on ZOOM these days. One thing I’ve noted is that people are both energized and exhausted by their new existence in the COVID-19 pandemic. The energy comes from learning new skills and from the new forms of connection they are discovering with family, friends and colleagues. The […]
Podcast Episode 68: Self-Acceptance Leads to Self-Differentiation
Self-acceptance comes from self-understanding and self-compassion. This is easier said than done. It begins with awareness and intentionality and ultimately leads to taking responsibility for self. Show Notes: The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. Therapists Spill: 12 Ways to Accept Yourself by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. This is my blog post that […]
Leadership through Self-Differentiation and the COVID-19 Crisis
My mother will be 97 next month. She lived in Hiroshima during World War II. She said the other day, “I’ve never experienced anything like this, and I went through the A-Bomb!” Unless you were alive during the 1918-20 flu pandemic, you can probably say the same. COVID-19 has disrupted nearly every aspect of daily […]
Podcast Episode 66: Change, Fear, Uncertainty and Hope-An Easter Message
In Matthew 28:1-10, Mary Magdalene and the other Mary face change, uncertainty and fear. The parallels to the current COVID-19 crisis are unmistakable. Their response can help us find hope. Show Notes: That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief by Scott Berinato The Liturgists Podcast: You Are Safe