Surrounding Togetherness Pressure Comes in Many Forms
When one of our sons was about 11, he came to me and asked, “Dad can we go hunting sometime?” I immediately felt anxiety. I’m not a hunter. I grew up in the suburbs of DC. I’m not against hunting, it’s just not who I am. But we live in a rural area, and I’m […]
Podcast Episode 78: Hamilton, Burr and Self-Differentiation
The Broadway production of Hamilton has some great examples of people-pleasing and narcissism. Here’s why self-differentiation is neither. Show Notes: WorkLife with Adam Grant – Bonus: Relationships at work with Esther Perel Hamilton despised slavery but didn’t confront George Washington or other slaveholders by Gregory S. Schneider — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 77: Leadership through Self-Differentiation in a Polarized Society-A Case Study
Having compassion for and staying connected to those with whom you disagree is not likely to change their mind. It does keep open the possibility for new opportunities. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Masks, Flags, Statues and Self-Differentiation
The mask debate reaches all corners of society. The church is no exception. Some folks won’t go in a church without one. Others won’t go in if they are required. This goes to the heart of polarization these days. Our country has lined up on different sides of a variety of issues. Here’s a partial […]
Podcast Episode 76: Leadership through Self-Differentiation in a Polarized Society
David Brubaker writes that leading in a politically polarized age requires clarity, compassion, courage and connection. Those characteristics reflect the essence of leadership through self-differentiation. Show Notes: Leading in an Age of Political Polarization by David R. Brubaker The Non-Anxious Leader: Family Systems Basics, July 1-28, 2020 — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 75: Self-Differentiation Promotes Unity in the Midst of Diversity
This rebroadcast is more relevant in the renewed fight against racism. Spiral dynamics is a model that helps us understand both human and societal development. The challenge of the 21st century is finding unity in the midst of ever-growing diversity. Understanding family systems can help. Show Notes: Stages of Social Development: The Cultural Dynamics that […]
With Great Privilege Comes Great Responsibility
Last year I read a post in a private Facebook group about one of the up and coming Democratic presidential primary challengers. I typed in, “Better than two old white guys,” referring to Bernie Sanders and Joe Biden. I paused before hitting enter, wondering if this was an appropriate response. I went ahead. I should […]
Podcast Episode 74: Four Steps to Making a Hard Decision
When faced with a difficult decision avoid the impulse to react, stay focused on your mission, weigh the downside risk, and look for stop signs. Then make your choice and own it. Show Notes: Episode 71: Save Your Energy for the Important Decisions Chasing Daylight: Seize the Power of Every Moment by Erwin McManus — […]
Podcast Episode 73: Murray Bowen Never Used the Term Sabotage-Why It’s So Important to Edwin Friedman’s Work
A key difference between Edwin Friedman and Murray Bowen is the concept of Sabotage. Both would agree on the emotional process involved, but Bowen never used the term. This episode explains why. Show Notes: Bowen and Friedman: Two Systems Thinkers from The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Podcast The Non-Anxious Leader Network — […]