Podcast Episode 120: Storytime – Understanding Projection and its Leadership Implications
Projection is an emotional process that is one of the four automatic responses to system anxiety. Understanding how it works and how to recognize it will help you as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Friedmans’s Fables by Edwin Friedman Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman — Send in a […]
Four Ways to Bridge the Political Divide
I’d like to discuss some of the issues that divide us as Christians. Where should I start? Take your pick: immigration, gun control, abortion, Black Lives Matter, the death penalty. Oh, and there is same sex marriage and the ordination of LGBTQ persons. I’ve done a lot of thinking and praying about these topics and […]
Podcaset Episode 119: Four Automatic Responses to System Anxiety (and How to Deal with Them)
If we don’t self-regulate we can end up responding automatically to system anxiety. This episode explains the possible responses and how to respond differently. Show notes: The Bowen Center for the Study of Family — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 118: How to Build Resilience (a Family Systems Take)
Resilience enables you to be a non-anxious presence in difficult situations so you can respond with your best self. This episode covers the research behind resilience, as well as four steps to becoming more resilient. Show Notes: How People Learn to Become Resilient by Maria Konnikova Episode 92: You Can Change Your Environment or You […]
Be Careful How You Define Yourself
“Now, with God’s help, I shall become myself.” Søren Kierkegaard My early experience in the work world was in the auto industry. It was common for someone to work 40+ years, retire at age 65, then die six months after retirement. Most of us assumed they didn’t have much of a life outside of […]
Podcast Episode 117: Mindfulness Can Help You Better Self-Regulate
Mindfulness teaches us to stay focused on the present without judgment. Here’s how you can use this to self-regulate more effectively. Show Notes: Podcast Episode 49: Hot States, Cold States and Self-Regulation (Part 1 of 2) Podcast Episode 50: Hot States, Cold States and Self-Regulation (Part 2 of 2) Viktor Frankl quote — Send in […]
Podcast Episode 116: How to Talk with a Child (or Someone Who Acts Like One)
Marshall Rosenberg uses Non-Violent or Compassionate Communication to resolve conflicts with children. This episode looks at his process through the lens of family systems theory. Show Notes: Marshall Rosenberg – Resolving Conflicts with Children #1 Marshall Rosenberg – Resolving Conflicts with Children #2 — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Pick Your Battles
Old habits die hard. Especially for parents and children. I have talked for a long time about learning to play the violin so I can accompany our worship band at church. It was somewhat of a dream, and I had never taken a step to act on it. Last month my wife and children blew […]
Podcast Episode 115: Storytime-Recognizing a Conflict of Wills
When we make our well-being dependent on someone else’s functioning we set up a conflict of wills. “Soaring” from Friedman’s Fables can help us understand why. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message