Podcast Episode 114: Storytime-Put Your Own Oxygen Mask on First
While others may panic during anxious times, non-anxious leaders are able to focus on taking responsibility for self. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Uncertainty and Decision-Making
I had a seminary professor say that if you wanted to do theology you needed to have a high ambiguity tolerance. What he meant was that so much of what we find in scripture leaves things open for interpretation. There’s much more gray than black and white. Therefore we have to be willing to live […]
Podcast Episode 113: Storytime-How to Deal with Hypersensitive People
Enabling hypersenstive people will result in their feeling entitled, which will take its toll on us. This episode shows how to handle things more effectively. Show notes: Friedman’s Fables — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 112: Storytime-To Avoid Resistance Stay in Your Lane
“‘Round in Circles” from Friedman’s Fables illustrates the problems with focusing on what other people should do. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 111: Storytime-The Power of the Dependent
Edwin Friedman’s book, Friedman’s Fables, is an entertaining way to learn family systems theory. In this episode, I read the first fable, “The Bridge,” and unpack the concept of the leverage of the dependent. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Balancing Individuality and Togetherness
If you’ve ever been shamed into doing something you didn’t want to do, then you’ve experienced surrounding togetherness pressure. This is the conscious or unwitting pressure from others in any system (family, congregation or organization) to conform to the will of others. What do you mean you won’t be home for the holidays? You […]
Podcast Episode 110: Not All Conflicts Are Equal
Knowing the difference between different types of conflicts and how to handle them is key to being a non-anxious leader. This episode shows you how. Show Notes: 3 Types of Conflict and How to Address Them by Katie Shonk Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant The Science of […]
Podcast Episode 109: Self-Differentiation Is Not Selfishness
Self-differentiation is sometimes confused with selfishness. This episode looks at the concepts of ego and ego-strength to show the difference. Show Notes: Egomania vs. ego strength by Seth Godin Ego Versus Ego-Strength: The Characteristics of a Healthy Ego and Why It’s Essential to Your Happiness by Athena Staik, Ph.D. — Send in a voice message: […]
Podcast Episode 108: Five Steps to Better Self-Regulation
Encounters with anxious people can make it difficult to control one’s own reactivity. These five steps can help you better self-regulate. Show Notes: How to Keep Your Cool in High-Stress Situations by Robert E. Quinn, David P. Fessell, and Stephen W. Porges — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message