Podcast Episode 129: Servant Leadership and Self-Differentiation – Part 1 of 2
If servant leadership is about serving those you lead, then how does a self-differentiated leader do this? Part 1 goes through the first five characteristics of a servant-leader to show you how. Show Notes: Ten Characteristics of a Servant-Leader by Larry Spears Episode 35: Sabotage and Empathy (What Works and What Doesn’t) Episode 48: Envy, […]
Podcast Episode 128: How to Grow Stronger Emotionally
Glennon Doyle said, “Pain is not to be chosen, not to be avoided.” I break this statement down in family systems terms to show how this is the path to self-differentiation and emotional strength. Show Notes: Glennon Doyle and Brené on Untamed – Unlocking Us with Brené Brown How do you help a grieving friend? […]
Putting God First Means Family Comes Before Work
One of my sons was five when he asked, “Dad, when I get married will my wife be part of the family?” I said, “Of course!” He replied, “I mean can she come to Hatteras with us?” At the time, we had been celebrating vacation week with extended family on the Outer Banks in North […]
Podcast Episode 126: What to Do When Your Congregation’s a Hot Mess – A Case Study
This real-life case study, submitted by a podcast listener, illustrates important emotional process concepts. I break it down to help you grow as a non-anxious leader. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Christian Sanctification and the Non-Anxious Presence
Christian sanctification is the process by which God’s grace works through the believer to make her into the image of Jesus. This is not her own doing. It is the work of God enabling the Jesus follower to love herself and love others unconditionally. The most important role of the believer is to let go […]
Podcast Episode 125: Another Look at Differentiation of Self (Part 2 of 2)
This episode looks at the pseudo-self vs. the basic self, as well as the three-legged stool of self-differentiation. Show Notes: Differentiation of Self: To Be or Not to Be? A Presentation by Mindy S. Reynolds — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 124: Another Look at Differentiation of Self (Part 1 of 2)
This look at self-differentiation comes from the Bowen school of family systems theory. I give my take on how it can help you grow as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Differentiation of Self: To Be or Not to Be? A Presentation by Mindy S. Reynolds — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Results Matter (But Not How You Might Think)
Results matter. If your efforts never get positive results, life would be pretty challenging. But I read a recent blog post that made me think about results and how we focus on them. It was about the Permian Panthers High School Football team of “Friday Night Lights” fame and their magical championship year. Their hard […]
Podcast Episode 122: How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (Part 1 of 2)
Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. This episode explains how it relates to family systems theory. Show Notes: EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: AN OVERVIEW Dr. Manoranjan Tripathy — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message