Podcast Episode 197: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 3 of 4) – The Problem with Seriousness and Reactivity
The emotional intensity that comes from being super-serious can turn a challenge into a problem. Likewise, when we react automatically to the anxiety of others, it can make a bad situation worse. This episode digs into why this is the case and what you can do about it. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How […]
Podcast Episode 196: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 2 of 4) – Emotional Process
Recognizing emotional process will not only help you avoid getting stuck, it will enable you to persist through the inevitable sabotage that comes when you are leading change. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer — […]
Podcast Episode 195: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 1 of 4) – Triangles
The key to effective leadership is the ability to remain a non-anxious presence. Understanding triangles, as well as how to manage them, makes this easier. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer — Send in a […]
Podcast Episode 194: Self-Differentiation Requires Emotional Courage
We often hide in the safety of groups rather than risk the vulnerability of self-differentiating in one-on-one interactions. Here’s why, as well as how you can do better. Show Notes: De-clumping Our Relationships by Kathleen Smith PhD — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 193: How to Make Your Anxiety Work for You
Anxiety feels bad but there’s a reason for this. Once we’re able to understand this, we can experience its benefits. Here’s how. Show Notes: It’s time to reframe our thoughts around anxiety. Here’s how to use it productively Future Tense: Why Anxiety Is Good for You (Even Though It Feels Bad) by Tracy Dennis-Tiwary PhD […]
Podcast Episode 192: 6 Things You Need to Do to Be a Non-Anxious Leader
Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. Here are six ways EQ can help you be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: 6 Super Effective Ways to Show Your Emotional Intelligence at Work by Marcel Schwantes Episode 122: How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (Part 1 of 2) Episode 123: How Emotional Intelligence […]
Podcast Episode 191: 8 Questions to Help You through Challenging Situations
Self-differentiation doesn’t happen automatically or from just studying family systems theory. It takes regular reflection and preparation so you act with integrity in moment of choice. These questions can help you. Show Notes: Becoming More Responsible to a Chaotic World (May 26, 2022) by Dr. Kathleen Smith Family Systems 101 — Send in a voice […]
Podcast Episode 190: Two Levels of Self-Differentiation
Dr. Michael Kerr, who studied under Murray Bowen, identifies two levels of self-differentiation. Here’s what they are and why they matter to the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Interview with Michael Kerr 2007 from the Family Systems Institute Dr. Michael Kerr Family Systems 101 – A FREE 11-week course — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 189: Storytime – Put Your Own Oxygen Mask on First
“Panic,” a fable from Friedman’s Fables, illustrates the importance of taking responsibility for self as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message