Podcast Episode 206: How to Be a Non-Anxious Presence
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy helps people with extreme reactivity. Here’s how it can help you to be a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: How to calm your inner storm by Sheri Van Dijk Non-Violent Communications Feelings Inventory — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 205: How Self-Differentiation Breeds Confidence
Non-anxious leaders have a confidence that is based in knowing their goals and values, as well as embracing humility, curiousity and courage. This is both attractive and influential. Here’s how it works. Show Notes: 5 habits of confident people by Stephanie Vozza — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 204: How to Manage the Negative Emotions of Others (rebroadcast)
A non-anxious leader understands how emotions spread and how to be a positive influence. This episode is a rebroadcast of Episode 133: Emotions Are Contagious – Here’s What You Need to Know. It’s been re-titled because it focuses mainly on how to be a non-anxious presence when others are unhappy. Show Notes: Those Who Share […]
Podcast Episode 203: 8 Signs That You Are Not Self-Differentiating
Self-differentiation is the ability to define your own goals and values, express them in healthy ways AND remain emotionally connected to the most anxious in the relationship system. Here are eight ways that you can fall short, along with strategies to do better in the future. Show notes: Minding the Gaps in Our Own Maturity […]
Podcast Episode 202: Four Types of Triangles and How to Manage Them
The triangle is the most stable form of human relationship. Learning to recognize a triangle and how to manage it is essential to being a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPC — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 201: Four Leadership Tips from Edwin Friedman (plus Where to Find Family Systems Training)
Understanding the nuances of emotional process will make you a better leader. These four tips will help. Show Notes: The Center for Family Process The Center for Pastoral Effectiveness in the Rockies The Family Systems Institute The Bowen Center for the Study of the Family Tending the Fire Lombard Mennonite Peace Center — Send in […]
Podcast Episode 200: Here’s What Too Much Togetherness Looks Like (and What You Can Do about It)
Surrounding togetherness pressure makes it hard to self-differentiate. Understanding how this works and how you can respond will help you to be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Dr. Kathleen Smith — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 199: Three Ways Non-Anxious Leaders Respond to Political Division
The political, cultural and theological divisions continue to widen. A non-anxious leader understands why AND how to respond. Show Notes: The Center for Family Process Only My Opinion Counts: Myside Bias by Jamie Hale, M.S. The Bias That Divides Us: The Science and Politics of Myside Thinking by Keith E. Stanovich — Send in a […]
Podcast Episode 198: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 4 of 4) – Self-Regulation and Integrity in the Moment of Choice
Self-differentiation is acting in accordance with your goals and values, especially in anxious moments. This episode shows you how, as well as what to do when you don’t. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer — […]