The Weight (and Wait) of Unknowing
Like many, I spend a lot of time on ZOOM these days. One thing I’ve noted is that people are both energized and exhausted by their new existence in the COVID-19 pandemic. The energy comes from learning new skills and from the new forms of connection they are discovering with family, friends and colleagues. The […]
Podcast Episode 68: Self-Acceptance Leads to Self-Differentiation
Self-acceptance comes from self-understanding and self-compassion. This is easier said than done. It begins with awareness and intentionality and ultimately leads to taking responsibility for self. Show Notes: The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. Therapists Spill: 12 Ways to Accept Yourself by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. This is my blog post that […]
Podcast Episode 67: Six Ways to Manage Anxiety
The COVID-19 pandemic has disrupted daily living for almost everybody. This kind of change requires us to understand loss, grief and how to manage anxiety. Show Notes: That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief by Scott Berinato — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Leadership through Self-Differentiation and the COVID-19 Crisis
My mother will be 97 next month. She lived in Hiroshima during World War II. She said the other day, “I’ve never experienced anything like this, and I went through the A-Bomb!” Unless you were alive during the 1918-20 flu pandemic, you can probably say the same. COVID-19 has disrupted nearly every aspect of daily […]
Podcast Episode 66: Change, Fear, Uncertainty and Hope-An Easter Message
In Matthew 28:1-10, Mary Magdalene and the other Mary face change, uncertainty and fear. The parallels to the current COVID-19 crisis are unmistakable. Their response can help us find hope. Show Notes: That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief by Scott Berinato The Liturgists Podcast: You Are Safe
Podcast Episode 65: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 10 Doing Your Own Work
Finding a therapist or coach, doing a genogram and family timeline, and listening to family stories can help you work toward greater self-differentiation. It’s a life’s work.
Words to Live By (Especially in Anxious Times)
I love to simplify things. Yes, it’s a complicated world. Things are not always simple. But keeping it simple is more than just a saying, it’s good advice. Why? Because we tend to overcomplicate things, worry about things that never happen, imagine motives that aren’t there. A heuristic is a mental shortcut that allows […]
Podcast Episode 64: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 9 Paradox and Playfulness
Relating to anxious people is a challenge. Your best tools are recognizing emotional process, then using paradox and playfulness.
Podcast Episode 63: If You Met My Family, You’d Understand-Chapter 8 Self-Regulation
Self-regulation is the key to keeping your own anxiety in check, as well as to reducing the anxiety level in the system. A simple way to do this is to listen.