Podcast Episode 81: Understanding Intergenerational Transmission Can Help You Maintain a Non-Anxious Presence
Knowing that norms, values and patterns of behavior are transmitted from generation to generation can help you to take anxiety and resistance less personally. This will help you remain a non-anxious presence. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Surrounding Togetherness Pressure Comes in Many Forms
When one of our sons was about 11, he came to me and asked, “Dad can we go hunting sometime?” I immediately felt anxiety. I’m not a hunter. I grew up in the suburbs of DC. I’m not against hunting, it’s just not who I am. But we live in a rural area, and I’m […]
Podcast Episode 77: Leadership through Self-Differentiation in a Polarized Society-A Case Study
Having compassion for and staying connected to those with whom you disagree is not likely to change their mind. It does keep open the possibility for new opportunities. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 76: Leadership through Self-Differentiation in a Polarized Society
David Brubaker writes that leading in a politically polarized age requires clarity, compassion, courage and connection. Those characteristics reflect the essence of leadership through self-differentiation. Show Notes: Leading in an Age of Political Polarization by David R. Brubaker The Non-Anxious Leader: Family Systems Basics, July 1-28, 2020 — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 74: Four Steps to Making a Hard Decision
When faced with a difficult decision avoid the impulse to react, stay focused on your mission, weigh the downside risk, and look for stop signs. Then make your choice and own it. Show Notes: Episode 71: Save Your Energy for the Important Decisions Chasing Daylight: Seize the Power of Every Moment by Erwin McManus — […]
Podcast Episode 73: Murray Bowen Never Used the Term Sabotage-Why It’s So Important to Edwin Friedman’s Work
A key difference between Edwin Friedman and Murray Bowen is the concept of Sabotage. Both would agree on the emotional process involved, but Bowen never used the term. This episode explains why. Show Notes: Bowen and Friedman: Two Systems Thinkers from The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Podcast The Non-Anxious Leader Network — […]
Garbage Cans, Masks and Surrounding Togetherness Pressure
There’s one thing I know: when a holiday falls on a Monday, all garbage collection moves back by one day that week. Even though I knew this, one time after a holiday weekend, I went online and checked my account to confirm that our normal Wednesday collection was rescheduled for Thursday. It was. However, […]
Podcast Episode 72: Self-Differentiation and Maturity-A Look at the Work of Jenny Brown
Family systems practitioner Jenny Brown uses the term maturity to describe self-differentiation. I take two paragraphs from her book and distill out three hallmarks of self-differentiation. Show Notes: Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life’s relationships by Jenny Brown The Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 71: Save Your Energy for the Important Decisions
Not every decision is created equal. Knowing how to manage your decision-making energy will make you more confident, less anxious, and will leave you more energy for the big decisions. Show Notes: Successful people like Barack Obama and Mark Zuckerberg wear the same thing every day — and it’s not a coincidence from Business Insider […]