Podcast Episode 111: Storytime-The Power of the Dependent
Edwin Friedman’s book, Friedman’s Fables, is an entertaining way to learn family systems theory. In this episode, I read the first fable, “The Bridge,” and unpack the concept of the leverage of the dependent. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Balancing Individuality and Togetherness
If you’ve ever been shamed into doing something you didn’t want to do, then you’ve experienced surrounding togetherness pressure. This is the conscious or unwitting pressure from others in any system (family, congregation or organization) to conform to the will of others. What do you mean you won’t be home for the holidays? You […]
Podcast Episode 109: Self-Differentiation Is Not Selfishness
Self-differentiation is sometimes confused with selfishness. This episode looks at the concepts of ego and ego-strength to show the difference. Show Notes: Egomania vs. ego strength by Seth Godin Ego Versus Ego-Strength: The Characteristics of a Healthy Ego and Why It’s Essential to Your Happiness by Athena Staik, Ph.D. — Send in a voice message: […]
Podcast Episode 108: Five Steps to Better Self-Regulation
Encounters with anxious people can make it difficult to control one’s own reactivity. These five steps can help you better self-regulate. Show Notes: How to Keep Your Cool in High-Stress Situations by Robert E. Quinn, David P. Fessell, and Stephen W. Porges — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 106: The Importance of a Loyal Opposition
Leading through self-differentiation will result in a loyal opposition. This is a good thing and will help you be your best. Show Notes: The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable by Patrick Lencioni Episode 35: Sabotage and Empathy (What Works and What Doesn’t) — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 105: Is Society Regressing?
Societal regression occurs when anxiety increases due to the inability to handle change. This episode looks at the characteristics in light of recent events. Show Notes: A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix Podcast Episode 28: How to Take a Leadership Stand on Controversial Issues (including a Family Systems take […]
The Gift of Being Fed Up
This week I watched as numerous government officials resigned their positions in the Trump Administration. Previously loyal elected officials criticized the President, accusing him of instigating protestors who broke into the Capitol while Congress was receiving the Electoral College count. My take on this is that these appointed and elected officials were fed up. This […]
Podcast Episode 103: The Magnet Theory of Emotional Distance
Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space. The magnet theory helps to understand what this looks like and how to do it. Show Notes: Episode 102: The Problem with Emotional Intensity The Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 102: The Problem with Emotional Intensity
Emotional intensity can serve as a clue to the emotional process in a system. This episode starts with examples in child-focused families and then shows how this can help the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue The Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message