Podcast Episode 97: Your Most Important Role as a Leader
Discerning and communicating vision is your most important role as a leader. Doing this well creates focus, as well as reduces anxiety. Understanding family sysytems theory will help you deal effectively with resistance. A note: near the end I say “A little humilty never helps.” I meant to say, “A little humility never hurts.” Send […]
Podcast Episode 96: Five Characteristics of Resilience (and How They Help the Non-Anxious Leader)
Resilience not only promotes growth, it enables a leader to maintain a non-anxious presence when facing challenge. Understanding resilience will help you do this more effectively. Show Notes: Episode 92: You Can Change Your Environment or You Can Change Yourself – A Look at Edwin Friedman’s Take on Toxicity and Response — Send in a […]
Focus on What You Can Control, Not What You Can’t
On January 31, 1988, my favorite football team got off to a miserable start in Super Bowl XXII. By the second quarter they were down 10-0. I figured I needed to change their luck, so I put a kitchen chair at the back of my in-laws’ great room and stood on it. It worked. My […]
Podcast Episode 95: The Problem with Moral Convictions
Moral convictions are important. However, if they aren’t managed properly they can have negative consequences. Understanding how they work can help you avoid the negatives so you can be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Moral Combat – Hidden Brain Podcast Moral Conviction by Linda J. Skitka, Ph.D. Episode 85: Facts, Beliefs and the Non-Anxious Leader […]
Podcast Episode 94: How Fusion Results in a Herd Mentality
Fusion is the loss of self to the norms of another individual or group. Understanding how it works can help the non-anxious leader recognize and avoid a herd mentality. Show Notes: The Center for Family Process Definitions from Bowen Theory from The Family Systems Institute Bowen Theory & Concepts from The Bowen Theory Education Center […]
Let’s All Take a Deep Breath
I took my grandson around the neighborhood recently. He rides his balance bike and I walk. It’s a great way to get outside and spend time together. We were going by a neighbor’s house when he came out into his yard and started chatting. Then he said, “You know Reverend Jack, I’ve lost a lot […]
Podcast Episode 92: You Can Change Your Environment or You Can Change Yourself – A Look at Edwin Friedman’s Take on Toxicity and Response
Edwin Friedman said that the strength of toxicity in a system could be expressed as hostile environment divided by the response of the organizm (HE/RO). This episode unpacks what this means for the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Toxicity and Response by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
The Problem with Being Right
I like to be right, even to the point of arrogance. I’m not proud of it. I’m working on it. But without self-awareness and intentionality it’s my default mode. I like to be right. One legendary story in our family says it all. Some time ago a friend of our teenage son came to live […]
Podcast Episode 90: How Self-Awareness and Intentionality Foster Self-Differentiation
This episode defines self-awareness and intentionality, as well as how they help us work towards self-differentiation. Show Notes: What Self-Awareness Really Is (and How to Cultivate It) by Tasha Eurich Intention and Intentionality, The Coaching Room Episode 35: Sabotage and Empathy (What Works and What Doesn’t) — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message