Podcast Episode 194: Self-Differentiation Requires Emotional Courage
We often hide in the safety of groups rather than risk the vulnerability of self-differentiating in one-on-one interactions. Here’s why, as well as how you can do better. Show Notes: De-clumping Our Relationships by Kathleen Smith PhD — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 193: How to Make Your Anxiety Work for You
Anxiety feels bad but there’s a reason for this. Once we’re able to understand this, we can experience its benefits. Here’s how. Show Notes: It’s time to reframe our thoughts around anxiety. Here’s how to use it productively Future Tense: Why Anxiety Is Good for You (Even Though It Feels Bad) by Tracy Dennis-Tiwary PhD […]
Podcast Episode 192: 6 Things You Need to Do to Be a Non-Anxious Leader
Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. Here are six ways EQ can help you be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: 6 Super Effective Ways to Show Your Emotional Intelligence at Work by Marcel Schwantes Episode 122: How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (Part 1 of 2) Episode 123: How Emotional Intelligence […]
Podcast Episode 191: 8 Questions to Help You through Challenging Situations
Self-differentiation doesn’t happen automatically or from just studying family systems theory. It takes regular reflection and preparation so you act with integrity in moment of choice. These questions can help you. Show Notes: Becoming More Responsible to a Chaotic World (May 26, 2022) by Dr. Kathleen Smith Family Systems 101 — Send in a voice […]
Podcast Episode 190: Two Levels of Self-Differentiation
Dr. Michael Kerr, who studied under Murray Bowen, identifies two levels of self-differentiation. Here’s what they are and why they matter to the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Interview with Michael Kerr 2007 from the Family Systems Institute Dr. Michael Kerr Family Systems 101 – A FREE 11-week course — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 189: Storytime – Put Your Own Oxygen Mask on First
“Panic,” a fable from Friedman’s Fables, illustrates the importance of taking responsibility for self as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 188: Five Ways Self-Differentiation Builds Resilience
Self-differentiation is about knowing your own goals and values, which builds resilience. Here’s the research that shows why. Show Notes: How To Be Resilient: 5 Secrets To Success When Life Gets Impossible by Eric Barker — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 187: Self-Differentiation Is Self-Giving
Not all forms of self-sacrifice are created equal. Self-differentiation is a healthy way to give yourself to others. You’ll be a better and happier leader. Here’s how. Show Notes: Helping others might feel good, but is it really good for you? by T Ryan Byerly Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others […]
Podcast Episode 185: One Reason Leaders (Especially Pastors) Burnout
The inability to self-differentiate as a leader takes its toll. Here’s the research behind why this is so. Show Notes: Fake It Until You Make It? Not So Fast: How we compensate when we can’t be our authentic selves from Kellogg Insight — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message