Podcast Episode 203: 8 Signs That You Are Not Self-Differentiating
Self-differentiation is the ability to define your own goals and values, express them in healthy ways AND remain emotionally connected to the most anxious in the relationship system. Here are eight ways that you can fall short, along with strategies to do better in the future. Show notes: Minding the Gaps in Our Own Maturity […]
Podcast Episode 202: Four Types of Triangles and How to Manage Them
The triangle is the most stable form of human relationship. Learning to recognize a triangle and how to manage it is essential to being a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Kathleen Smith, PhD, LPC — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 201: Four Leadership Tips from Edwin Friedman (plus Where to Find Family Systems Training)
Understanding the nuances of emotional process will make you a better leader. These four tips will help. Show Notes: The Center for Family Process The Center for Pastoral Effectiveness in the Rockies The Family Systems Institute The Bowen Center for the Study of the Family Tending the Fire Lombard Mennonite Peace Center — Send in […]
Podcast Episode 200: Here’s What Too Much Togetherness Looks Like (and What You Can Do about It)
Surrounding togetherness pressure makes it hard to self-differentiate. Understanding how this works and how you can respond will help you to be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Dr. Kathleen Smith — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 199: Three Ways Non-Anxious Leaders Respond to Political Division
The political, cultural and theological divisions continue to widen. A non-anxious leader understands why AND how to respond. Show Notes: The Center for Family Process Only My Opinion Counts: Myside Bias by Jamie Hale, M.S. The Bias That Divides Us: The Science and Politics of Myside Thinking by Keith E. Stanovich — Send in a […]
Podcast Episode 198: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 4 of 4) – Self-Regulation and Integrity in the Moment of Choice
Self-differentiation is acting in accordance with your goals and values, especially in anxious moments. This episode shows you how, as well as what to do when you don’t. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer — […]
Podcast Episode 197: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 3 of 4) – The Problem with Seriousness and Reactivity
The emotional intensity that comes from being super-serious can turn a challenge into a problem. Likewise, when we react automatically to the anxiety of others, it can make a bad situation worse. This episode digs into why this is the case and what you can do about it. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How […]
Podcast Episode 196: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 2 of 4) – Emotional Process
Recognizing emotional process will not only help you avoid getting stuck, it will enable you to persist through the inevitable sabotage that comes when you are leading change. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer — […]
Podcast Episode 195: Leadership through Self-Differentiation (Part 1 of 4) – Triangles
The key to effective leadership is the ability to remain a non-anxious presence. Understanding triangles, as well as how to manage them, makes this easier. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer — Send in a […]