The Gift of Being Fed Up
This week I watched as numerous government officials resigned their positions in the Trump Administration. Previously loyal elected officials criticized the President, accusing him of instigating protestors who broke into the Capitol while Congress was receiving the Electoral College count. My take on this is that these appointed and elected officials were fed up. This […]
Podcast Episode 103: The Magnet Theory of Emotional Distance
Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space. The magnet theory helps to understand what this looks like and how to do it. Show Notes: Episode 102: The Problem with Emotional Intensity The Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 102: The Problem with Emotional Intensity
Emotional intensity can serve as a clue to the emotional process in a system. This episode starts with examples in child-focused families and then shows how this can help the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue The Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Focus on What You Can Control, Not What You Can’t
On January 31, 1988, my favorite football team got off to a miserable start in Super Bowl XXII. By the second quarter they were down 10-0. I figured I needed to change their luck, so I put a kitchen chair at the back of my in-laws’ great room and stood on it. It worked. My […]
Podcast Episode 95: The Problem with Moral Convictions
Moral convictions are important. However, if they aren’t managed properly they can have negative consequences. Understanding how they work can help you avoid the negatives so you can be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Moral Combat – Hidden Brain Podcast Moral Conviction by Linda J. Skitka, Ph.D. Episode 85: Facts, Beliefs and the Non-Anxious Leader […]
Podcast Episode 94: How Fusion Results in a Herd Mentality
Fusion is the loss of self to the norms of another individual or group. Understanding how it works can help the non-anxious leader recognize and avoid a herd mentality. Show Notes: The Center for Family Process Definitions from Bowen Theory from The Family Systems Institute Bowen Theory & Concepts from The Bowen Theory Education Center […]
Let’s All Take a Deep Breath
I took my grandson around the neighborhood recently. He rides his balance bike and I walk. It’s a great way to get outside and spend time together. We were going by a neighbor’s house when he came out into his yard and started chatting. Then he said, “You know Reverend Jack, I’ve lost a lot […]
Podcast Episode 92: You Can Change Your Environment or You Can Change Yourself – A Look at Edwin Friedman’s Take on Toxicity and Response
Edwin Friedman said that the strength of toxicity in a system could be expressed as hostile environment divided by the response of the organizm (HE/RO). This episode unpacks what this means for the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Toxicity and Response by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
The Problem with Being Right
I like to be right, even to the point of arrogance. I’m not proud of it. I’m working on it. But without self-awareness and intentionality it’s my default mode. I like to be right. One legendary story in our family says it all. Some time ago a friend of our teenage son came to live […]
