Podcast Episode 90: How Self-Awareness and Intentionality Foster Self-Differentiation
This episode defines self-awareness and intentionality, as well as how they help us work towards self-differentiation. Show Notes: What Self-Awareness Really Is (and How to Cultivate It) by Tasha Eurich Intention and Intentionality, The Coaching Room Episode 35: Sabotage and Empathy (What Works and What Doesn’t) — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Self-Differentiation on the Supreme Court
Their political views couldn’t have been further apart. But they shared a love of opera, the law and their country. Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Antonin Scalia met when they were on the U.S. Court of Appeals in the 1980s. They ultimately ended up as colleagues on the U.S. Supreme Court. Legally, they were fierce adversaries. […]
Three Things that Helped Me Do a Pandemic Reset
I did a recent podcast episode on the persistent, low-level anxiety that has been gnawing at me. I definitely think it’s pandemic-related and that I’m not alone. I’ve been feeling it for a couple months. I was managing it with spiritual disciplines, regular exercise and getting enough sleep. But it wasn’t going away. That’s why […]
Masks, Flags, Statues and Self-Differentiation
The mask debate reaches all corners of society. The church is no exception. Some folks won’t go in a church without one. Others won’t go in if they are required. This goes to the heart of polarization these days. Our country has lined up on different sides of a variety of issues. Here’s a partial […]
Podcast Episode 74: Four Steps to Making a Hard Decision
When faced with a difficult decision avoid the impulse to react, stay focused on your mission, weigh the downside risk, and look for stop signs. Then make your choice and own it. Show Notes: Episode 71: Save Your Energy for the Important Decisions Chasing Daylight: Seize the Power of Every Moment by Erwin McManus — […]
Episode 73: Murray Bowen Never Used the Term Sabotage-Why It’s So Important to Edwin Friedman’s Work
A key difference between Edwin Friedman and Murray Bowen is the concept of Sabotage. Both would agree on the emotional process involved, but Bowen never used the term. This episode explains why. Show Notes: Bowen and Friedman: Two Systems Thinkers from The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Podcast The Non-Anxious Leader Network — […]
Podcast Episode 73: Murray Bowen Never Used the Term Sabotage-Why It’s So Important to Edwin Friedman’s Work
A key difference between Edwin Friedman and Murray Bowen is the concept of Sabotage. Both would agree on the emotional process involved, but Bowen never used the term. This episode explains why. Show Notes: Bowen and Friedman: Two Systems Thinkers from The Bowen Center for the Study of Family Podcast The Non-Anxious Leader Network — […]
Podcast Episode 72: Self-Differentiation and Maturity-A Look at the Work of Jenny Brown
Family systems practitioner Jenny Brown uses the term maturity to describe self-differentiation. I take two paragraphs from her book and distill out three hallmarks of self-differentiation. Show Notes: Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life’s relationships by Jenny Brown The Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Trust Takes Time
I have a regular route for my morning run. It goes by a large tree that is home to an osprey pair. Osprey generally mate for life and return to the same nest each year. The female incubates the eggs while the male defends the nest. For the last five years, as I’ve approached on […]