Podcast Episode 241: The Give and Take of Self-Differentiation
There is a sweet spot in self-differentiation between defining self and staying emotionally connected. When we go astray, we end up trying to change others or letting others change us. This episode shows you how you can do better. Show Notes: The Space Between Changing Each Other by Kathleen Smith Subscribe to my weekly Two for […]
Podcast Episode 238: Five Steps to Deeper Emotional Connection (Rebroadcast)
Self-differentiation is more than just being a non-anxious presence in anxious situations. It’s about building deeper, healthier relationships. This episode shows you how. Show Notes: The conversational habits that build better connections by David Robson Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: […]
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Podcast Episode 237: A Family Systems Take on Procrastination
Many, if not most of us, procrastinate. However, for some this can really be disruptive. Psychologists suggest that childhood trauma can be at the root of procrastination. This episode unpacks that concept from a family systems perspective. Show Notes: How Procrastination Can Reflect Childhood Experience by Peg Streep Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church […]
Podcast Episode 236: What Is a Boundary and Why Does It Matter?
Non-anxious leaders know the importance of boundaries and how to set them. This episode can help you do this better. Show Notes: Your boundaries set you free by Brian Stout Episode 230: How to Say “No” as a Non-Anxious Presence Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 235: 3 Steps to Taking Responsibility for Self When Others Refuse to Do the Same
Self-differentiating, taking responsibility for self, can be hard when others respond by defining and blaming you. This is sabotage. Here are three steps to respond effectively. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman* A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman* […]
Podcast Episode 233: Self-Differentiation Is Defining Self, Not Others
We often focus on what others should be doing as a way to manage our own anxiety and avoid taking responsibility for self. Here’s what defining others looks like and how we can do better. Show Notes: How We End Up Fixating On Others’ Immaturity by Kathleen Smith Episode 211: Level 5 Leaders and Self-Differentiation […]
Podcast Episode 231: A COVID Family Reunion Redux – A Case Study
We were planning to host our family over Memorial Day Weekend for my Mom’s 100th Birthday when my wife and I tested postive for COVID. Here’s how we handled it. Show Notes: Episode 183: A COVID Family Reunion – A Case Study CBS News Story on my Mom Picture from our 2023 Family Reunion — […]
Podcast Episode 229: How to Create and Maintain Healthy Emotional Space
Non-anxious leaders know how to create and maintain healthy emotional space in their relationships. This episode explains what that is, why it’s important and how to do it. Show Notes: The Cycle of Overfunctioning and Distancing by Kathleen Smith — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
