Podcast Episode 254: How to Stand Up for Yourself during the Holidays (or Anytime) – (Rebroadcast)
Self-differentiation doesn’t happen automatically. It’s even harder during the holidays when surrounding togetherness pressure can be high. This episode covers a four-step process that can help you remain a non-anxious presence when you express what you believe, feel, want and need. Show Notes: Alison Cook, Ph.D. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails — Send in […]
Podcast Episode 253: Unpacking the Responsibility Triangle
You can’t make another person responsible. If you’re trying, you’re likely doing it wrong. Here’s why and how you can do better. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 252: How Understanding Symmetry Helps You Manage System Anxiety
The family systems concept of symmetry can help you observe and even predict patterns of functioning in a relationship system. It can also point toward where to find answers about system anxiety. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send […]
Podcast Episode 250: 3 Simple Steps to Repair a Reactive (or Adaptive) Response
What do you do when you respond to another in ways that are hurtful? This episode shows that you can not only repair the relationship, you can make it better. Show Notes: Becky Kennedy: The single most important parenting strategy | TED Talk Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: […]
How I Stood Up to My Mom on Our Daughter’s Wedding Day
My mother just turned 100. She’s an amazing, determined, strong-willed woman. She has supported and encouraged me throughout my life. Even so (or because of this), I had a hard time standing up to her when I was growing up. It wasn’t her. It was me. But, as I learned about self-differentiation and began working […]
Podcast Episode 248: How to Use Surrounding Togetherness Pressure in Healthy Ways (Rebroadcast)
Nobody lives in a vacuum. Surrounding togetherness pressure influences people in both negative and positive ways. Here’s how you, as a leader, can use it to make things better. Show Notes: The Lazy Way To An Awesome Life by Eric Barker Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 245: 5 Ways to Assess the Health of Any Relationship System – Part 2 of 2
The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems […]
Podcast Episode 244: 5 Ways to Assess the Health of Any Relationship System – Part 1 of 2
The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems […]
Podcast Episode 242: Self-Differentiation Is NOT Independence
Whether it’s raising kids or leading an organization, a non-anxious leader is interdependent, not independent. This episode covers why that matters and how you can do better. Show Notes: Forget independence. Teach your kids this instead. By Jennifer Breheny Wallace Check out the FREE Family Systems 101 Course. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — […]
