Podcast Episode 21: Difficult Conversations Part 2–How to Be a Non-Anxious Presence
Engaging in a difficult conversation takes preparation to enable one to be a non-anxious presence. These techniques will help you to prepare, get started and remain a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen and Roger Fisher
Three Ways to Create Emotional Space (and Why It Matters)
This has been an eventful year for my denomination, The United Methodist Church. In February, a special session of delegates from around the world met. Their decisions created a crisis over the church’s stance on LGBTQ inclusion. I recently recorded a podcast episode as to how this crisis can be a good thing. One result […]
Podcast Episode 20: Difficult Conversations Part 1–What’s Going On in Us?
There are three potential conversations that go on in our heads when we are having a difficult conversations: What happened, feelings and identity. Understanding how these work and what to do about them is essential to being a non-anxious presence in challenging interactions. Show Notes: This podcasts references material from Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss […]
Podcast Episode 19: Self-Regulation–the Key to Being a Non-Anxious Presence
Remaining a non-anxious presence, especially in anxious situations, is the key to effective leadership. This is hard to do. You will feel anxious inside. Learning to regulate your own anxiety can help you be your most effective.
Be Quick–but Don’t Hurry
When I was growing up, UCLA men’s basketball was a dynasty. They were led by coach, John Wooden, who was known as the “Wizard of Westwood,” which is the L.A. community where UCLA is located. Wooden led UCLA to 10 national championships in a 12-year period, including seven in a row. In their heyday, […]
Podcast Episode 18: Pain, the Quick-Fix, Crisis, and Why It’s a Great Time to Be a United Methodist
In family systems theory, pain is an opportunity for growth. Our culture promotes pain avoidance and seeking the quick fix. Sometimes the only way to find growth is through a crisis.
Podcast Episode 17: Soap, Innovation and Emergent Strategy
Very few organizations are able to sustain effectiveness over the long haul. It requires a balance between planning and adapting to changing circumstances, both of which are needed for innovation and execution. Procter and Gamble is an example of a company that has been able to change with the times. Show Notes: This article from […]
How to Spot a Team Player
Great things can be accomplished when people work together. It is cliché, but the whole IS really greater than the sum of the parts. Knowing how to identify people who will work well on a team is essential to building effective teams. Even more important, it’s critical for the leader to be a team […]
Podcast Episode 16: A Family Systems Perspective on Brene Brown’s Anatomy of Trust
Brene Brown uses the acronym “BRAVING” to describe how to build trust in relationships. Trust is key to effective leadership. Understanding Brown’s take from a family systems perspective is helpful in learning to be a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Brene Brown’s talk on the Anatomy of Trust The SPEED of TRUST: The One Thing that […]