Podcast Episode 93: A Family Systems Perspective on Imposter Syndrome
Many high achievers suffer from imposter syndrome. Looking at one’s own family of origin and taking responsibility for self can help. Show Notes: Imposter syndrome – Wikipedia Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck, Ph.D The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer From the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive […]
Podcast Episode 92: You Can Change Your Environment or You Can Change Yourself – A Look at Edwin Friedman’s Take on Toxicity and Response
Edwin Friedman said that the strength of toxicity in a system could be expressed as hostile environment divided by the response of the organizm (HE/RO). This episode unpacks what this means for the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Toxicity and Response by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
The Problem with Being Right
I like to be right, even to the point of arrogance. I’m not proud of it. I’m working on it. But without self-awareness and intentionality it’s my default mode. I like to be right. One legendary story in our family says it all. Some time ago a friend of our teenage son came to live […]
Podcast Episode 91: The Characteristics of an Authentic Leader
The characteristics of an authentic leader show that self-differentiation and authenticity go hand-in-hand. It all comes down to taking responsibility for self. Show Notes: Discovering Your Authentic Leadership by Bill George , Peter Sims , Andrew N. McLean and Diana Mayer — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 90: How Self-Awareness and Intentionality Foster Self-Differentiation
This episode defines self-awareness and intentionality, as well as how they help us work towards self-differentiation. Show Notes: What Self-Awareness Really Is (and How to Cultivate It) by Tasha Eurich Intention and Intentionality, The Coaching Room Episode 35: Sabotage and Empathy (What Works and What Doesn’t) — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Self-Differentiation on the Supreme Court
Their political views couldn’t have been further apart. But they shared a love of opera, the law and their country. Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Antonin Scalia met when they were on the U.S. Court of Appeals in the 1980s. They ultimately ended up as colleagues on the U.S. Supreme Court. Legally, they were fierce adversaries. […]
Podcast Episode 89: Mimetic Theory and Self-Differentiation – Why Being Yourself Is So Hard
Being and belonging are essential to who we are. According to mimetic theory, the way we go about this is more harmful than helpful. Working toward self-differentiation can help. Show Notes: Secrets about People: A Short and Dangerous Introduction to René Girard by Alex Danco The Key to Move from Imitation to Differentiation: How Mimetic […]
The National Anthem, Kneeling and Leadership through Self-Differentiation
Washington Football Team head coach, Ron Rivera is in a difficult situation. He’s a person of color so he’s experienced racism in our country firsthand. His father had a 32-year career in the army, and Rivera was raised on military bases throughout Europe, Central America and the U.S. He understands what it means to serve […]
Podcast Episode 87: Three Ways Donald Trump’s Leadership Style Increases Anxiety in America
What works for Donald Trump as a leader will not likely work for the rest of us. Understanding the ways he increases anxiety can help you to be more effective as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Podcast Episode 28: How to Take a Leadership Stand on Controversial Issues (including a Family Systems take on Donald […]