Podcast Episode 101: Family Systems in a Nutshell – A Children’s Story
The children’s story, Bread and Jam for Frances, has all the components of family systems theory. This episode breaks it down. Show Notes: Bread and Jam for Frances by Russell Hoban — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 100: A Family Systems Take on Non-Violent (or Compassionate) Communication – Part 2
Non-Violent or Compassionate Communication not only helps us to express our unmet needs, it also helps us to listen to others to identify their unmet needs. Show Notes: Episode 99: A Family Systems Take on Non-Violent (or Compassionate) Communication – Part 1 Family Systems Book Study in The Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a […]
Podcast Episode 99: A Family Systems Take on Non-Violent (or Compassionate) Communication – Part 1
Marshall Rosenberg developed Non-Violent Communication to better express our own needs and better understand the needs of others. This episode looks at how this complements family systems theory and can help non-anxious leaders communicate more effectively. Show Notes: The Center for Non-Violent Communication “Feelings Inventory” The Center for Non-Violent Communication “Needs Inventory” — Send in […]
Podcast Episode 98: Non-Anxious Leaders Understand Paradox and Playfulness
Edwin Friedman maintained that paradox and playfulness were important to maintaining a non-anxious presence. The leverage of the dependent and the conflict of wills are key concepts to understanding how this works. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin H. Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 97: Your Most Important Role as a Leader
Discerning and communicating vision is your most important role as a leader. Doing this well creates focus, as well as reduces anxiety. Understanding family sysytems theory will help you deal effectively with resistance. A note: near the end I say “A little humilty never helps.” I meant to say, “A little humility never hurts.” Send […]
Podcast Episode 96: Five Characteristics of Resilience (and How They Help the Non-Anxious Leader)
Resilience not only promotes growth, it enables a leader to maintain a non-anxious presence when facing challenge. Understanding resilience will help you do this more effectively. Show Notes: Episode 92: You Can Change Your Environment or You Can Change Yourself – A Look at Edwin Friedman’s Take on Toxicity and Response — Send in a […]
Focus on What You Can Control, Not What You Can’t
On January 31, 1988, my favorite football team got off to a miserable start in Super Bowl XXII. By the second quarter they were down 10-0. I figured I needed to change their luck, so I put a kitchen chair at the back of my in-laws’ great room and stood on it. It worked. My […]
Podcast Episode 95: The Problem with Moral Convictions
Moral convictions are important. However, if they aren’t managed properly they can have negative consequences. Understanding how they work can help you avoid the negatives so you can be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Moral Combat – Hidden Brain Podcast Moral Conviction by Linda J. Skitka, Ph.D. Episode 85: Facts, Beliefs and the Non-Anxious Leader […]
Podcast Episode 94: How Fusion Results in a Herd Mentality
Fusion is the loss of self to the norms of another individual or group. Understanding how it works can help the non-anxious leader recognize and avoid a herd mentality. Show Notes: The Center for Family Process Definitions from Bowen Theory from The Family Systems Institute Bowen Theory & Concepts from The Bowen Theory Education Center […]