Podcast Episode 345: How to Reduce Resistance to Change
Understanding force field analysis, design thinking and leadership through self-differentiation will help you reduce resistance to change. This episode shows how. Show Notes: Kurt Lewin – Wikipedia Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
Podcast Episode 344: 5 Ways to Assess the Health of Any Relationship System – Part 2 of 2 (Rebroadcast)
The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems […]
The Problem with Being Right
I like to be right, even to the point of arrogance. I’m not proud of it. I’m working on it. But without self-awareness and intentionality it’s my default mode. I like to be right. One legendary story in our family says it all. Some time ago a friend of our teenage son came to live […]
Podcast Episode 343: 5 Ways to Assess the Health of Any Relationship System – Part 1 of 2 (Rebroadcast)
The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems […]
The Upside of Surrounding Togetherness Pressure
Prior to his passing, my father-in-law lost his capacity for speech due to a massive stroke. Though he would try to speak at times, it was mostly unintelligible. However, when we would tuck him in at night, we would say the Lord’s Prayer with him. As often as not, he would try to say […]
Podcast Episode 342: Non-Anxious Leaders Embrace Discomfort (Rebroadcast)
According to Edwin Friedman, one of the characteristics of a chronically anxious society is the desire to seek safety instead of adventure. Non-anxious leaders seek adventure and learn to love it. Here’s how. Show Notes: The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times by Michelle Obama A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age […]
Surrounding Togetherness Pressure Comes in Many Forms
When one of our sons was about 11, he came to me and asked, “Dad can we go hunting sometime?” I immediately felt anxiety. I’m not a hunter. I grew up in the suburbs of DC. I’m not against hunting, it’s just not who I am. But we live in a rural area, and […]
Podcast Episode 341: How to Focus on Emotional Process (and Not Content) (Rebroadcast)
Understanding emotional process helps you to see how people deal with uncertainty and anxiety. This enables you to be less anxious and judgmental, as well as more compassionate. This episode shows you how. Show Notes: The Circle of Why by Kathleen Smith Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email […]
Podcast Episode 340: Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People’s Problems (And Start Delegating Anxiety Instead)
This example from Edwin Friedman’s video on leadership through self-differentiation will help you manage anxiety in any relationship system. Show Notes: Leadership Through Self Differentiation A lecture by Edwin Friedman on YouTube Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.