Podcast Episode 370: 5 Ways to Respond to System Anxiety
When relationship systems are stressed they get anxious. Here’s what that looks like and what you can do as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: When the Family Tightens Up – by Kathleen Smith Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
Self-Differentiation and the Courage to Be a Yourself
“Being assertive means being able to have your needs met while still interacting with great sensitivity to those around you. + It means valuing yourself—valuing your own life, your own goals, your own precious time here on this earth—while at the same time valuing others. + It means recognizing that you have a God-given […]
Podcast Episode 369: 5 Mistakes That Escalate Family Tension — and What They Teach Us About Leadership
Grandparents often interfere with the parenting by their own adult children. Understanding these five mistakes from a family systems perspective can help you grow as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: 5 common mistakes grandparents make, according to a pediatrician by Perri Klass, MD Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two […]
Podcast Episode 368: What Exactly IS a Failure of Nerve – Part 2 of 2 (Rebroadcast)
Knowing the characteristics of a chronically anxious system, as well as the principles of leadership through self-differentiation makes all the difference. Show Notes: A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
Paradox and Playfulness Can Help in Sticky Situations
Kat Cole faced a dilemma in her job as a Hooters server. Every week a young man came in with his buddies and ordered a plate of 50 wings. When it was time for the check, he complained that they only received 40 and demanded a discount. This would’ve been fine once, but it […]
Podcast Episode 367: What Exactly IS a Failure of Nerve – Part 1 of 2 (Rebroadcast)
Edwin Friedman’s last book, A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, challenges us to lead differently. Here’s how. Show Notes: A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for […]
Podcast Episode 366: Favoritism, Family Systems, and the Work of Differentiation
Whether you’re a parent, pastor or president, favoritism is unhealthy. Here’s the research behind it and four things you can do to interrupt the pattern. Show Notes: Do Parents Have Favorite Children? Of Course They Do. – The New York Times Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email […]
A Non-Anxious Leader Is a Lightning Rod (Not a Drain Trap)
It’s good to be a lightning rod.* It’s better than being a drain trap. If you’ve ever looked under your sink, you’ve seen a drain trap (also known as a p-trap). The u-shaped bend in the trap holds enough water to create a seal that prevents sewer gases from wafting back into your house. […]
Podcast Episode 365: Three Ways to Take Responsibility for Self (Rebroadcast)
Self-differentiated leaders take responsibility for themselves (and no one else). This will increase self-discipline in a way that helps you in all aspects of life. Here are three strategies to help you do this. Show Notes: Why this type of self-discipline will make you a better leader by Jody Michael Become a Patron for as little […]