Podcast Episode 233: Self-Differentiation Is Defining Self, Not Others
We often focus on what others should be doing as a way to manage our own anxiety and avoid taking responsibility for self. Here’s what defining others looks like and how we can do better. Show Notes: How We End Up Fixating On Others’ Immaturity by Kathleen Smith Episode 211: Level 5 Leaders and Self-Differentiation […]
Podcast Episode 232: Self-Differentiation Builds Self-Trust and Confidence
How often does surrounding togetherness pressure cause you to second guess yourself? Self-differentiation increases confidence because you trust yourself more. Here’s how it works. Show Notes: Dr. Alison Cook — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 231: A COVID Family Reunion Redux – A Case Study
We were planning to host our family over Memorial Day Weekend for my Mom’s 100th Birthday when my wife and I tested postive for COVID. Here’s how we handled it. Show Notes: Episode 183: A COVID Family Reunion – A Case Study CBS News Story on my Mom Picture from our 2023 Family Reunion — […]
Podcast Episode 230: How to Say “No” as a Non-Anxious Presence
If you want to make an impact, you have do things that are important, but not urgent. This means being able to say “No” to many things. Here’s how to do it. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy by Marianne van Dijk — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 229: How to Create and Maintain Healthy Emotional Space
Non-anxious leaders know how to create and maintain healthy emotional space in their relationships. This episode explains what that is, why it’s important and how to do it. Show Notes: The Cycle of Overfunctioning and Distancing by Kathleen Smith — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 228: 4 Steps to Creating a Non-Anxious Culture
An emotionally mature culture is a non-anxious culture. Systems that function this way are more resilient and adaptive in the face of inevitable challenges. Here’s how you can foster this kind of culture. Show Notes: The Emotionally Mature Organization from The Bowen Center’s “Family Matters” series. — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 227: A Family Systems Model of Burnout – Part 2 of 2 (Rebroadcast)
Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 226: A Family Systems Model of Burnout – Part 1 of 2 (Rebroadcast)
Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 224: How to Rework a Difficult Relationship
To grow as non-anxious leader, you need to learn how to self-differentiate in your most difficult relationships. This episode covers five things that will help you to do this. Show Notes: How to Set Boundaries With a Difficult Family Member by Catherine Pearson Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover […]