Podcast Episode 32: Why You Get Triangled (and How to Deal with It)
The emotional triangle is the most stable form of human relationship. This is because most of the time we are not able to appropriately deal with tension or stress in a two-person relationship. This episode gives examples of triangles, explains how they are formed and maintained, and shows you how to deal with being triangled. […]
Three Things I Learned from Our Grandson
We just spent a week at a family reunion. If you listen to my podcast, you know that my wife, Jodi, and I took our two-year-old grandson, Thomas, with us. His parents had to work so they couldn’t go. This involved traveling cross country, and included airplanes, and quite a bit of time in the […]
Are You a Diminisher or a Multiplier?
I used to lead a leadership program for high school youth at the camp I served. One time, an instrutor was giving an example and made this statement, “You have a friend who when you spend an hour with them they suck all the joy out of you.” One of the young women in […]
Podcast Episode 22: The Secret of Success
The overnight success is a myth, or at best a rarity. The rest of us have to work at it. Regardless of what you do, there is a proven approach to making an impact. Show Notes: Domino Chain Reaction, a YouTube video by Stephen Morris. It’s only 2-1/2 minutes, and well worth watching. The ONE […]
Three Ways to Create Emotional Space (and Why It Matters)
This has been an eventful year for my denomination, The United Methodist Church. In February, a special session of delegates from around the world met. Their decisions created a crisis over the church’s stance on LGBTQ inclusion. I recently recorded a podcast episode as to how this crisis can be a good thing. One result […]
How to Spot a Team Player
Great things can be accomplished when people work together. It is cliché, but the whole IS really greater than the sum of the parts. Knowing how to identify people who will work well on a team is essential to building effective teams. Even more important, it’s critical for the leader to be a team player. […]
Podcast Episode 16: A Family Systems Perspective on Brene Brown’s Anatomy of Trust
Brene Brown uses the acronym “BRAVING” to describe how to build trust in relationships. Trust is key to effective leadership. Understanding Brown’s take from a family systems perspective is helpful in learning to be a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Brene Brown’s talk on the Anatomy of Trust The SPEED of TRUST: The One Thing that […]
Podcast Episode 14: Murphy’s Law, Entropy and Managing Your Response
Leadership is hard. Things go wrong (a lot). Responding as a non-anxious presence is a key to effective leadership. Sometimes, it’s in the worst situations that people can produce their best work. Show Notes: Success Story: Keith Jarrett and the “Unplayable” Piano by Joseph C. Bentley, Ph.D The Koln Concert album.
Use the Power of “I Don’t” to Gain Control of Your Life
How often do you feel like life is out of control? There’s not enough time. It’s too easy to do the things you don’t want to do, and too hard to do the things you do want to do. Learning the difference between “I don’t” and “I can’t” will help you gain control of your […]
