Podcast Episode 156: How to Break the Cycle of Chronic Emotional Patterns
Chronic emotional patterns are sustained by reactive or adaptive responses. Breaking the cycle requires self-awareness and intentionality to do something different. Here’s how. Show Notes: Sign up for The Non-Anxious Leader Email list. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
It’s Complicated
It’s human nature to want to simplify things. We also like certainty. Most of us would prefer things to be black or white but most of life is grey. It’s complicated. What do we make of the friend or family member whose political views seem insane? Is it possible to love them but disagree with […]
Podcast Episode 154: How to Stand Up for Yourself during the Holidays (or Anytime)
Self-differentiation doesn’t happen automatically. It’s even harder during the holidays when surrounding togetherness pressure can be high. This episode covers a four-step process that can help you remain a non-anxious presence when you express what you believe, feel, want and need. Show Notes: Alison Cook, Ph.D. Subscribe to The Non-Anxious Leader email list — Send […]
Podcast Episode 153: Managing Family Estrangements during the Holidays
Over one quarter of Americans have an estranged family member. This makes the holidays extremely difficult. Learning to manage this can also help you to grow as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: How to grieve estranged family and friends during the holidays by Christina Wyman Episode 135: Emotional Cutoff – What It Is and How […]
Episode 148: The Difference between Narcissism and Self-Differentiation
Narcissists are great at self-definition but not emotional connection. Understanding the difference between this and self-differentiation will help you as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Narcissism from Wikipedia How to identify narcissists at work—and when to avoid them by Art Markman, PhD — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 145: Family Systems Theory – A Practical Overview
This episode is a presentation from the Family Systems Book Study that puts family systems theory in context for the non-anxious leader. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 142: A Family Systems Model of Burnout – Part 1 of 2
Edwin Friedman described five characteristics of systems that promote burnout among their leaders. Understanding this can help you avoid the same fate. Part 1 goes through the characteristics. Part 2 helps leaders respond appropriately. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue Join the FREE Family Systems Book Study — Send in […]
Podcast Episode 141: Society Wants a Scapegoat. Does it Need One?
A scapegoat gives individuals and society someone to blame. This episode unpacks the family systems principles at work. Show Notes: A Cow, A Lantern, and a Myth: Mrs. O’Leary and 19the Century Immigrants in Chicago The O’Leary Legend Scapegoating minorities is an unfortunate reality of history by Grady Atwater Join the FREE Family Systems Book […]
Podcast Episode 140: Being a Self Is Not Selfishness
Self-differentiation is different than being selfish. This episode explains the difference. Show Notes: Healthy Selfishness and Pathological Altruism: Measuring Two Paradoxical Forms of Selfishness by Scott Barry Kaufman and Emanuel Jauk Join the FREE Family Systems Book Study — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
