Podcast Episode 191: 8 Questions to Help You through Challenging Situations

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Self-differentiation doesn’t happen automatically or from just studying family systems theory. It takes regular reflection and preparation so you act with integrity in moment of choice. These questions can help you. Show Notes: Becoming More Responsible to a Chaotic World (May 26, 2022) by Dr. Kathleen Smith Family Systems 101 — Send in a voice […]

Podcast Episode 190: Two Levels of Self-Differentiation

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Dr. Michael Kerr, who studied under Murray Bowen, identifies two levels of self-differentiation. Here’s what they are and why they matter to the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Interview with Michael Kerr 2007 from the Family Systems Institute Dr. Michael Kerr Family Systems 101 – A FREE 11-week course — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message

Podcast Episode 186: Why Saying What You Believe Matters

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Non-anxious leaders say what they believe while giving others the freedom to disagree. New research shows why this matters. Show Notes: When Political Discussions Get Heated, Is It Best to Just Stay Out of It? from Kellogg Insight — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message

Podcast Episode 177: The Connection between Wisdom and Self-Differentiation

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The ability to be a non-anxious presence is an expression of both wisdom and self-differentiation. This episode explores the connection between the two. Show Notes: The World Needs Wisdom: Here’s How to Activate Yours by Barbara Waxman Episode 108: Five Steps to Better Self-Regulation — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message

Podcast Episode 169: The Leverage of the Dependent

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Leaders need to understand the triangles and resistance involved in leading dependent people. This episode shows you what that looks like and how to lead as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Episode 98: Non-Anxious Leaders Understand Paradox and Playfulness Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman — Send in a […]

What Is Your Anxiety Tolerance?

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I have said these things to you while I am still with you. But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you everything, and remind you of all that I have said to you. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do […]