Podcast Episode 191: 8 Questions to Help You through Challenging Situations
Self-differentiation doesn’t happen automatically or from just studying family systems theory. It takes regular reflection and preparation so you act with integrity in moment of choice. These questions can help you. Show Notes: Becoming More Responsible to a Chaotic World (May 26, 2022) by Dr. Kathleen Smith Family Systems 101 — Send in a voice […]
Podcast Episode 190: Two Levels of Self-Differentiation
Dr. Michael Kerr, who studied under Murray Bowen, identifies two levels of self-differentiation. Here’s what they are and why they matter to the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Interview with Michael Kerr 2007 from the Family Systems Institute Dr. Michael Kerr Family Systems 101 – A FREE 11-week course — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 189: Storytime – Put Your Own Oxygen Mask on First
“Panic,” a fable from Friedman’s Fables, illustrates the importance of taking responsibility for self as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 186: Why Saying What You Believe Matters
Non-anxious leaders say what they believe while giving others the freedom to disagree. New research shows why this matters. Show Notes: When Political Discussions Get Heated, Is It Best to Just Stay Out of It? from Kellogg Insight — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 179: Three Ways to Create Emotional Space
Healthy emotional space is essential to healthy relationships. This episode goes through the ways that you can make it possible. Show Notes: Join the Non-Anxious Leader Network — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 177: The Connection between Wisdom and Self-Differentiation
The ability to be a non-anxious presence is an expression of both wisdom and self-differentiation. This episode explores the connection between the two. Show Notes: The World Needs Wisdom: Here’s How to Activate Yours by Barbara Waxman Episode 108: Five Steps to Better Self-Regulation — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 169: The Leverage of the Dependent
Leaders need to understand the triangles and resistance involved in leading dependent people. This episode shows you what that looks like and how to lead as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Episode 98: Non-Anxious Leaders Understand Paradox and Playfulness Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman — Send in a […]
What Is Your Anxiety Tolerance?
I have said these things to you while I am still with you. But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you everything, and remind you of all that I have said to you. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do […]
Podcast Episode 168: Self-Compassion is Essential to Self-Differentiation
This episode shows how self-compassion helps you self-differentiate, as well as four steps to develop self-compassion. Show Notes: Being Kind to Yourself from Hidden Brain Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive by Kristin Neff, […]
