Podcast Episode 150: Five Steps to Deeper Emotional Connection
Self-differentiation is more than just being a non-anxious presence in anxious situations. It’s about building deeper, healthier relationships. This episode shows you how. Show Notes: The conversational habits that build better connections by David Robson — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 149: More Tools to Help You Self-Regulate
No matter how much family systems theory you know, self-regulating in the moment is the key to putting it into practice. This episode will help you do this so you can self-differentiate in anxious interactions. Show Notes: How to Be Happier Without Really Trying by Eric Barker Pocket Therapy for Emotional Balance: Quick DBT Skills […]
The Power of a Non-Anxious Presence
One person can change a system. I’ve seen this happen over and over in families of origin, congregations and organizations. A non-anxious presence has a positive impact on themselves and the people around them. It’s important to understand that this power is different than authority or the ability to control others. In fact, it’s quite […]
Episode 148: The Difference between Narcissism and Self-Differentiation
Narcissists are great at self-definition but not emotional connection. Understanding the difference between this and self-differentiation will help you as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Narcissism from Wikipedia How to identify narcissists at work—and when to avoid them by Art Markman, PhD — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 147: How to Be a Better Parent (and Leader)
Chinese philosophy takes a different approach to parenting than most of us are used to. Here’s a family systems take that can help the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: How Chinese philosophy can help you parent by Erin Cline Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice […]
Non-Anxious Leaders Know How to Earn Respect
You may have the authority to order other people around. That doesn’t mean they will like it or that they will give their best effort. If the great resignation has taught us anything it’s that people want to be respected as persons and valued for the contribution they make. Here are five things that […]
Podcast Episode 146: The Positive Side of Anxiety (and How to Make It Work for You)
Existential anxiety is a sign that you want to make things better but you’re feeling surrounding togetherness pressure. Here’s how you can manage it and actually use it in your favor. Show Notes: How to be anxious by David Egan — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 145: Family Systems Theory – A Practical Overview
This episode is a presentation from the Family Systems Book Study that puts family systems theory in context for the non-anxious leader. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 144: 7 Ways to Handle a Conflict of Wills
A conflict of wills gets you stuck. This approach will help you move forward towards a more productive conversation. Show notes: New Neuroscience Reveals 7 Secrets That Will Make You Emotionally Intelligent by Eric Barker Conflicted: How Productive Disagreements Lead to Better Outcomes by Ian Leslie — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message