Podcast Episode 162: Non-Anxious Leaders Nurture Disciples, Not Clones
Leadership through self-differentiation creates the conditions for people to speak their minds. This leads to a healthier system and a better chance to lead positive change. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Family Systems 101 Preview SIGN UP for Family Systems 101 — Send in a voice […]
Podcast Episode 161: Five Steps to Leading with Compassion
Empathy is important but has its downsides. Leadership through self-differentiation sees empathy as a step toward compassion, which can help others learn and grow. Show Notes: Connect with Empathy, But Lead with Compassion by Rasmus Hougaard, Jacqueline Carter, and Marissa Afton Episode 48: Envy, Empathy and Emotional Connection ZOOM link for the Family Systems 101 […]
Podcast Episode 160: Four Steps to Using Emotional Intelligence to Self-Differentiate
Reactivity and adaptivity are automatic responses like software. This episode will help you reprogram your behavior so you can exercise integrity in the moment of choice. Show Notes: This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets From Research by Eric Barker The Interpersonal Problems Workbook: ACT to End Painful Relationship Patterns by by […]
Living in an Age of Anxiety
But strive first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of its own. Today’s trouble is enough for today. Matthew [6:33]-34 (NRSV) Worry is serious business. It creates stress, affects your […]
Podcast Episode 159: Edwin Friedman’s 11 Tensions in Leadership
Edwin Friedman described 11 tensions in leadership. This episode explains them so you can use them as a guide to leading through self-differentiation. Show Notes: Leadership through Self-Differentiation, a home video of an Edwin Friedman divinity school lecture. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
How Do We Get out of This?
We’re entering year three of the COVID-19 pandemic. The disruption, uncertainty and loss have been life-altering. I was asked recently how churches can navigate this. None of us knows what the future holds. But we can focus on how we lead. Here are my thoughts. Show compassion I believe compassion is a key leadership competency, […]
Podcast Episode 158: The Long-Term Cost of Surrounding Togetherness Pressure (and What You Can Do about It)
Seventy-six percent of people nearing the end of their lives say their biggest regret was living their lives according to other people and their expectations. This is surrounding togetherness pressure. Here’s what you can do about it. Show Notes: The experience of regret: What, when, and why by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Medvec Episode 24: […]
Podcast Episode 157: Your Brain on Anxiety
The primitive part of our brain makes it possible for us to get addicted to anxiety and worry. This episode breaks it down, as well as how to break the habit. Show Notes: Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind by Judson Brewer, MD, […]
From Generation to Generation
The Lord passed before him, and proclaimed, ‘”The Lord, the Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness, keeping steadfast love for the thousandth generation, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, yet by no means clearing the guilty, but visiting the iniquity of the parents upon the […]