Podcast Episode 253: Unpacking the Responsibility Triangle
You can’t make another person responsible. If you’re trying, you’re likely doing it wrong. Here’s why and how you can do better. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 252: How Understanding Symmetry Helps You Manage System Anxiety
The family systems concept of symmetry can help you observe and even predict patterns of functioning in a relationship system. It can also point toward where to find answers about system anxiety. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send […]
Podcast Episode 251: Non-Anxious Leaders Encourage Healthy Disagreement
Relationship systems get stuck when surrounding togetherness pressure makes it difficult for people to disagree. Here’s what that looks like and how non-anxious leaders can create a culture of healthy disagreement. Show Notes: Emotionally Intelligent People Use a Brilliant 2-Word Phrase to Speak Up and Get Results by Justin Bariso Solomon Asch Conformity Line Experiment […]
Podcast Episode 250: 3 Simple Steps to Repair a Reactive (or Adaptive) Response
What do you do when you respond to another in ways that are hurtful? This episode shows that you can not only repair the relationship, you can make it better. Show Notes: Becky Kennedy: The single most important parenting strategy | TED Talk Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: […]
Podcast Episode 249: Non-Anxious Leaders Manage Their Own Anxiety without Involving Others
Self-differentiation means that you are able to manage your own anxiety without involving others. This episode unpacks what this does (and doesn’t) look like. Show Notes: Being the Captain of Your Own Ship by Kathleen Smith Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 248: How to Use Surrounding Togetherness Pressure in Healthy Ways (Rebroadcast)
Nobody lives in a vacuum. Surrounding togetherness pressure influences people in both negative and positive ways. Here’s how you, as a leader, can use it to make things better. Show Notes: The Lazy Way To An Awesome Life by Eric Barker Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 247: Five Science Insights that Show Why Leadership through Self-Differentiation Works (Rebroadcast)
Leadership through self-differentiation is counterintuitive. Here are five evidence-based reasons why it’s effective. Show Notes: 5 insights from behavioral science that can make you better at influencing others from Fast Company Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday emails. — Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 246: Non-Anxious Leaders Understand They Are Not in Control
A paradox in leadership is that we think we can control more than we actually can. This leads to micromanaging, which is more damaging than helpful. This episode shows how leadership through self-differentiation is different and more effective. Show Notes: How to Solve the Leadership Paradox | Inc.com by David Finkel Subscribe to my weekly Two […]
Podcast Episode 245: 5 Ways to Assess the Health of Any Relationship System – Part 2 of 2
The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems […]