Podcast Episode 324: Defiance as Self-Differentiation (and Three Steps to Do It Well)
Here’s how Dr. Sunita Sah’s definition of defiance is self-differentiation and how you can do it skillfully. Show Notes: DEFY : The Power Of No In A World That Demands Yes — Sunita Sah Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
Podcast Episode 323: How Self-Differentiation Makes You Happier
Evolutionary forces have created two competing psychological needs that contribute to happiness. Here’s what they are, as well as the difference that self-differentiation makes. Show Notes: For a happier life, we must balance two old psychological needs by William von Hippel The Hadza: Hunter-Gatherers of Tanzania by Frank Marlowe Become a Patron for as little […]
Podcast Episode 322: 5 Ways Self-Differentiation Builds Resilience (Rebroadcast)
Self-differentiation is about knowing your own goals and values, which builds resilience. Here’s the research that shows why. Show Notes: How To Be Resilient: 5 Secrets To Success When Life Gets Impossible by Eric Barker Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
Podcast Episode 321: Two Levels of Self-Differentiation (Rebroadcast)
Dr. Michael Kerr, who studied under Murray Bowen, identifies two levels of self-differentiation. Here’s what they are and why they matter to the non-anxious leader. Show Notes: Interview with Michael Kerr 2007 from the Family Systems Institute Dr. Michael Kerr Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
Podcast Episode 320: How to Lead Underfunctioning Followers
When a leader overfunctions, their followers naturally underfunction. Here are three things you can do if you have followed such a leader. Show Notes: Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
Podcast Episode 319: How NOT to Parent (or Lead)
Overfunctioning parents aren’t helping their kids, they’re hurting them. The same is true for leaders. Here’s what that looks like and what to do differently. Show Notes: Parents Who Hire Elite Tutors Are Setting Up Their Kids for Failure by Katie Roiphe Support My Work for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly Two for […]
Podcast Episode 318: How to Handle People Who Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt (FOG) to Manipulate You
Emotionally dependent people make demands that often use fear, obligation and/or guilt. Here’s how to manage yourself and the situation. Show Notes: How to Disarm any Narcissist Behavior Expert Reveals Exactly What To Say To A Narcissist – Chase Hughes Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.
The Importance of Family Position
Have you ever wondered why you always seem to play the same role in your family, no matter how much you try to change? In the last post I mentioned that your position in your family of origin is important. I don’t mean sibling position, although both Murray Bowen and Edwin Friedman considered this to […]
Podcast Episode 317: 3 Things You Need to Know to Lead in a Hostile Environment (Rebroadcast)
How we respond to challenge and crisis is a big factor in whether we will survive and even thrive. These three factors come from a lecture that Edwin Friedman gave in 1985. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue The Center for Family Process Subscribe to my weekly Two for Tuesday email newsletter.