Episode 166: Paradox and Playfulness – A Case Study
In this episode I break down a case study from Generation to Generation that highlights how paradox and playfulness can lead to lasting change. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 165: A Family Systems Take on Burnout
The Friedman’s Fable, “Burnout,” is both humorous and instructive. Here’s my take on the family systems dynamics of burnout, as well as how to avoid it. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 164: Balancing the Tension between Desire and Fear
“The Magic Ring” from Friedman’s Fables highlights the upside of being able to act freely without fear. This episode shows you how this works in real life. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: […]
Podcast Episode 163: Attachment – The Pros and Cons of Emotional Connection
The Friedman’s Fable, “Attachment,” uses a mythical culture to describe attachment in the extreme. Listen to the fable and my take on how it applies to leadership. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables by Edwin Friedman Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 162: Non-Anxious Leaders Nurture Disciples, Not Clones
Leadership through self-differentiation creates the conditions for people to speak their minds. This leads to a healthier system and a better chance to lead positive change. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Family Systems 101 Preview SIGN UP for Family Systems 101 — Send in a voice […]
Podcast Episode 160: Four Steps to Using Emotional Intelligence to Self-Differentiate
Reactivity and adaptivity are automatic responses like software. This episode will help you reprogram your behavior so you can exercise integrity in the moment of choice. Show Notes: This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets From Research by Eric Barker The Interpersonal Problems Workbook: ACT to End Painful Relationship Patterns by by […]
Living in an Age of Anxiety
But strive first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of its own. Today’s trouble is enough for today. Matthew [6:33]-34 (NRSV) Worry is serious business. It creates stress, affects your […]
Podcast Episode 159: Edwin Friedman’s 11 Tensions in Leadership
Edwin Friedman described 11 tensions in leadership. This episode explains them so you can use them as a guide to leading through self-differentiation. Show Notes: Leadership through Self-Differentiation, a home video of an Edwin Friedman divinity school lecture. — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jack-shitama/message
Podcast Episode 158: The Long-Term Cost of Surrounding Togetherness Pressure (and What You Can Do about It)
Seventy-six percent of people nearing the end of their lives say their biggest regret was living their lives according to other people and their expectations. This is surrounding togetherness pressure. Here’s what you can do about it. Show Notes: The experience of regret: What, when, and why by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Medvec Episode 24: […]